Please Advise: My Parents Have Taken Over Our Wedding

“My parents are helping us pay for our wedding. The problem is that their vision of our day and our vision are not the same: they’re picturing something big and grandiose; something their friends will be talking about for years to come. My fiancé and I want something intimate and more meaningful to us. How do we plan the type of wedding we want without looking ungrateful?”

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I sympathize with you – I was in that exact same position. My fiancé and I wanted a small intimate ceremony in a park with a huge pizza party reception. It took a lot of arguing and being called ungrateful before my last ditch effort to have a wedding: I wrote them a letter.

In the letter I explained what we wanted, why we wanted it and stressed how important it was to have our parents support us through one of the greatest times of our lives. I was honest with my parents in the letter and writing it down made it more difficult to get lost in an argument. My parents were able to read it over and over again, and it got through their heads. It wasn’t all happily ever after with them afterwards, but it was much better.

Also, if you have a sibling that does want a grandiose wedding, mention that to them. My sister Tara wants a huge wedding, so I’d always reassure my mom that she’ll have the wedding of her dreams whenever Tara gets married.

Makeup Trial to Wedding Day: Will the Makeup Translate the Way I Expect It To?

Here are a few good examples of how the makeup looked at the trial and through a photographers lens on the big day. Notice how the makeup looks more faded in the natural light and with the correct camera settings. If you are concerned that the makeup looks a bit too bright or dramatic at the trial, rest assured the same makeup will look picture perfect on your wedding day.

 
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Friday, November 9, 2012

November Color Obsession: Chocolate

by Meredith Hayman

Let’s face it, nothing is better than chocolate. Not only is it delicious, the color is creamy, rich, and flattering all at the same time. Why not incorporate this neutral into your wedding décor – pair it with white for a dramatic look or with peach or gold for a romantic vibe.

 
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Chocolate cosmos is a beautiful and modern choice for a bouquet.

 
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This groom looks polished in chocolate but not too formal.

 

 
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I love this table setting, it’s rustic yet fancy!

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Wednesday, November 7, 2012

Please Advise: Bachelor Party Woes

by Courtney Kamna

“My fiancé has been friends with his groomsmen since he was eight years old. I love them dearly and we get along really well, but I’ve heard rumors about the bachelor party they’re planning to throw—rumors that include both strippers and illegal drugs. How do I let everyone involved know that I think it’s disrespectful and unacceptable without causing a big rift?”

 
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I can totally understand where you are coming from and being concerned, especially about the drugs.

Unfortunately, if you don’t want to start a rift, there is nothing you can do except trust that your fiancé will behave himself and come home in one piece. I assume since you are marrying him, you have established a trusting relationship. How would you feel if you were going out with your friends, doing something your fiancé perceived as “unacceptable” and he made it known to everyone that he felt this way?

I’d speak to your fiancé about it privately if you absolutely feel you need to, but be very careful of the language you use. I would not tell him it’s unacceptable, that word will just evoke a fight. Be honest with him and explain how you feel, but be specific. Why are you so upset about the strippers or the drugs – tell him why and how it makes you feel. But be prepared for him being upset that you don’t “trust” him or are “babying” him. I would absolutely not approach his friends about it because you run the risk of being “that” girl. He’s already ditching his boys to marry you (men really feel this way) and if you’re going to start “bossing” him and his friends around before you’re officially married, it will cause a lot of resentment.

My husband had strippers at his bachelor party too. At first, I was a bit taken aback, but remember it’s his last big night out as a single guy. And don’t forget, those women up there with no clothes on, they do not want some drunk touching them any bit more than you do!

As for the drugs, especially if it’s any major drug, my grandfather used to say “What a drunk man does, he’s thinking about when he’s sober.”  Bottom line: you can’t let them know it’s disrespectful without causing a big rift.  No huge rift.  My advice is to give him something that he wants to come home to – this can be romantic, sexual or ideally, both. Men are visual creatures – so however you handle this situation will be how he remembers you on the bachelor party. Remember that before you “talk” or scold him.

Since you’ll be marrying this guy, you guys should have a way to communicate sticky issues like this. Whenever my husband does something I’m not especially fond of, I always say, “I don’t have life insurance out on you yet, so make sure you come home in one piece.” We smile at each other, both knowing exactly what I mean.

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Tuesday, November 6, 2012

Love Letter: Marc to Meredith

by Meredith Hayman

In the hustle and bustle of everyday life, it’s hard to take a minute to appreciate what a wonderful husband I have. Since today is our 8th wedding anniversary, I wanted to let my amazing hubby, Marc, in on a little secret.

I carry a love letter from you in my wallet. The letter is circa summer ’05 and has been in my wallet since the day I received it. I am so grateful to have found the love of my life. Happy Anniversary babe!

My Dearest Boo-Boo,

Every moment of every day, I realize just how much that I love you. Everywhere I turn there is a reminder of just how wonderful you are, from notes that you have left me to things that I see those trigger memories we have shared. Every time, I am reminded of the fact that I am the luckiest man in the whole world. You are everything that I have ever wanted and I cherish every moment that we spend together. You are my world, my partner, my soul. I am so fortunate to have found such happiness with you and want you to know that I do not take anything for granted. I love you the most; you are the best thing that ever happened to me. I am looking forward to spending the summer with you, including long walks in the nice weather, and lots of cuddle time around the apartment. Each of those moments is what I look forward to every minute of every day. It is what wakes me up in the morning¸ keeps me going through the day, and makes me want to get home to you every night.

You are the most special lady in the whole wide world and I hope that I make you feel that way each and every day. I promise to continue to love, honor, and cherish you every moment of every day.

Thank you for loving me and making me feel so complete. I love you the most.

Love,
Pumpkin

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Friday, November 2, 2012

Great Loves: Kermit the Frog and Miss Piggy

by Meredith Hayman

Who can ever forget the scene from The Muppet Movie when Kermit and Piggy are running through the meadow into each other’s arms? It was love-at-first-site for this unlikely pair.  Then there were years of break-ups and make-ups that left their fans always rooting for reconciliation.

Piggy can be a tough cookie but Kermit always brings out her softer side. It may not be easy being green but it sure is easy to love this Classic Hollywood couple.

 
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Top Fifteen Wedding Movies

1. My Big Fat Greek Wedding.
Nia Vardalos and John Corbett
My sisters and I do fantastic impressions of this entire movie.

Quote that makes me laugh: “You see? A man!”


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2. The Five-Year Engagement

Jason Segel and Emily Blunt
I finally watched this the other day and found myself laughing out loud throughout the entire thing.  It’s the perfect mix of romantic and ridiculous.
Quote that makes me laugh: “This is supposed to be exciting. This is your wedding — you only get a few of these.”  

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3. My Best Friend’s Wedding

Julia Roberts, Dermot Mulroney, Cameron Diaz
I first saw this movie in the theaters when I was in middle school.  My cousin and I had to pick a movie and couldn’t agree between this one and Wild America.  My grandma made us flip a coin.  I won 🙂
MY BEST FRIEND’S WEDDING, from left: Rupert Everett, Julia Roberts, 1997, © TriStar/courtesy Everett Collection


4. Made of Honor
Patrick Dempsey, Michelle Monaghan, Kevin McKidd
Patrick Dempsey’s in it and it’s filmed in NYC and Scotland… what’s not to love?
Part that makes me laugh: The baby-naming scene.


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5. Father of the Bride
Steve Martin, Diane Keaton, Martin Short


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6. The Wedding Singer
Adam Sandler & Drew Barrymore (and a cameo by Billy Idol)
We watched this in my house nearly every night for a solid six months.  The eject button on our VCR upstairs was broken so we used to have to take the tape out with butter knives so that we could return it to Joe’s Video (this entire paragraph makes me feel old).


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7. Wedding Crashers
Owen Wilson, Vince Vaughn, Rachel McAdams, Isla Fisher, Bradley Cooper, Will Ferrel
Part that makes me laugh: what part of this movie doesn’t make me laugh?


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8. I Love You, Man
Paul Rudd, Jason Segel, Rashida Jones
Part that makes me laugh: I’m in tears pretty much every time the “Joben” conversation happens.  It never gets old.


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8.  Bridesmaids
Kristen Wiig, Maya Rudolph, Rose Byrne, Melissa McCarthy, Chris O’Dowd
Quote that makes me laugh: The entire drive-by scene.  It kills me.

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9. 27 Dresses
Katherine Heigl, James Marsden, Malin Akerman
Part that makes me laugh: the argument over Benny and the Jets.

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10. the Proposal
Sandra Bullock, Ryan Reynolds, Betty White
Part that makes me laugh: Sandra Bullock and Betty White chanting in the woods.


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11. Bride Wars
Anne Hathaway, Kate Hudson


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12. That Old Feeling
Bette Midler, Dennis Farina, Paula Marshall
Quote that makes me laugh:
I developed a serious crush on Danny Nucci after watching this movie.  Serious.


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13. Runaway Bride
Julia Roberts, Richard Gere


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14. the Wedding Planner
Jennifer Lopez, Matthew McConaughey


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15. the Wedding Date
Debra Messing, Dermot Mulroney, Amy Adams


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What are your favorite parts of these?  Any wedding movies you love that weren’t mentioned?

Etsy Finds: Wedding Rings

With the Olympics’ Opening Ceremony kicking off in London today, we thought we’d give you an ode to the games with some rings of our own! Our rings are of the handmade variety. The artisans who create these lovely works of art put just as much blood, sweat, and tears into their craft as the athletes we’ll be watching for the next few weeks.

I’m madly in love with how unique these particular wedding rings are. Whether it’s their shape, their custom engravings, or some other amazing detail, these rings are all a little outside of the box. And really, what better symbol is there for your marriage than something that is uniquely you?

Metalicious braided wheat wedding band set / Peace of Indigo rustic bark with carved initials ring / Erga infinity ring / Garnet Girl Designs moissanite engagement ring / tina-dee wood grain stacking rings / Kari Woo square ring / Monkeys Always Look custom organic ring set / Kalikat custom engraved ring set.

All-Star Athlete Weddings

I love all things girly. Glitter, sequins, feathers and tulle are some of my favorite things. So it might surprise you that I also love sports. When I am a fan of a certain team, I become quite attached to the players on that team. I like to know more about them than what I see on TV. Find out what’s happening under that uniform, if you will. So I decided to find some of my favorite athletes wedding photos.

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First up we have New York Yankees pitcher CC Sabathia and his beautiful wife Amber cutting their spectacular silver and white five-tier wedding cake.
Carmelo Anthony and La La Vasquez at their wedding at Cipriani 42nd in NYC

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Next we have New York Knicks star Carmelo Anthony and his wife LaLa Vazquez after their swanky NYC wedding.
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Here’s a gorgeous photo of the 2012 Superbowl MVP (New York Giants Quarterback Eli Manning) and his stunning wife Abby following their Cabo San Lucas nuptials.
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Here’s another NYY star glowing post wedding. Fan favorite Nick Swisher and his wife, actress Joanna Garcia.
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My absolute favorites are from New York Rangers defenseman Marc Staal’s wedding to the adorable Lindsay Ruggles. The pair have known each other since high school and the photos are creative and amazing thanks to photographer Shannon Lepere.
And here’s a little bonus for all of my fellow New York Rangers lovers. A fun shot of some of the guys letting loose at Marc Staal’s wedding reception (from left:  NYR Captain Ryan Callahan, Defenseman Dan Girardi, videographer Damien Gilbert, Winger Brandon Dubinsky and Defenseman Michael DelZotto).
Janine is a sassy 20-something who married her childhood sweetheart and is raising a rambunctious puppy named Sasha in Garrison, NY.  Her love of all things girly is rivaled only by her passion for the NY Rangers.