Great Loves, Vol. VI : Clark Gable & Carole Lombard

When I first began my research of Clark Gable and Carole Lombard, I found a lot of things that suggested how perfect they were as individuals, how perfect they were together and how perfectly in love they were.  Delving deeper, I came across several stories that endeared this 1930s couple to me because they were far from perfect – they were real and passionate and in love.  They were human.

And they called each other “Ma” and “Pa.”

Clark Gable to the 1930s is what Ryan Gosling is to the present day – or Brad Pitt to the late 90s.  It wasn’t uncommon to hear someone say “Who do you think you are – Clark Gable?” to a particularly confident fellow.  Lombard was the “Queen of Screwball Comedy,” and both were at the peak of their careers.

“In 1932 they starred together in the Paramount film, No Man of Her Own. A modest success, it featured Carole as a small town librarian who falls head over heels for Clark, a card cheat. Carole was married to William Powell and Clark was preoccupied with British actress Elizabeth Allan, so no sparks flew off camera, although they were cordial. At the film’s wrap party, Carole presented Clark with a ten-pound ham with his picture posted on it…

“On February 7, 1936, both attended a party at Jock Whitney’s house, to celebrate screenwriter Donald Ogden Stewart’s wife’s recent release from a sanitarium, jokingly called “The Nervous Breakdown Party”. Things did not start out well as Carole, as a joke, arrived in an ambulance. Attendants carried her on a stretcher and placed it in the middle of the room. Everyone gasped and gathered around. She jumped up, howling with laughter.

Clark, there with Merle Oberon, was not amused and found the joke in poor taste. Clark and Carole got into a fight that ended with her stomping away from him, furiously proclaiming that he was a stuffed shirt. Near the end of the party, Carole challenged Clark to a game of tennis. There they played, both in evening clothes, playing tennis until it was too dark to see (Carole beat him 8-0). Merle, irritated by being ignored, had someone else take her home and Clark didn’t even notice.

“A couple months later, at the annual Mayfair Ball, Clark and Carole shared a dance. Holding her close, Clark realized she wasn’t wearing any undergarments. Taking this as a green light, he suggested they leave the party and go back to his hotel together. Carole laughed and said, “Who do you think you are, Clark Gable?” This angered him and he left the party. The next morning he awoke to the sounds of birds cooing in his bedroom. Carole had convinced a hotel worker to put them in there while he slept. Tied to one of the birds was a note that said, “How about it? Carole.”” (Dear Mr. Gable)

They were soon inseparable.  Carole even took up duck hunting, one of Clark’s favorite pass times.

Carole was madly in love with Clark and she wasn’t about to let anything get in the way of that.  Once, Carole stormed onto the set of one of Clark’s movies and demanded that the leading lady, who was rumored to have taken a liking to Gable, was fired.  “Get this bitch out of your picture or I’ll take Gable out of it!” she screamed at the director.  Gable later bragged about it.

“One-day last week, Clark Gable got into his cream-colored roadster, picked up Carole Lombard and drove 350 miles east to Kingman, Ariz. There they bought a license from an awestruck clerk named Viola Olsen and proceeded to the home of a Methodist Episcopal minister named Kenneth M. Engle. In the presence of his wife and a high-school principal named Cate, who later defined their behavior as “lovey-dovey,” Mr. Engle made Clark Gable and Carole Lombard man & wife. Gable wore blue, Lombard gray.” (Time, 1939)

They settled into a quiet life in rural Encino, California, until tragedy struck in 1942.  On a tour selling war bonds, Carole Lombard was flying over Nevada when her plane went down.

“Elaine Barrymore (wife of John) perhaps said it best, “Clark adored her. She was the light in his eyes. He admitted to me that he had always loved the company of ladies and he knew he had a reputation of being a ladies man, but with her it was different. He really was in love. To have her taken from him was like someone ripped out his soul. I saw him periodically for years afterward. The light in his eyes was gone. Even when he smiled. That light never returned.” (Dear Mr. Gable)

Upon his death in 1961, Clark Gable was buried beside the love of his life, Carole Lombard.

Great Loves, Vol. III : Paul & Joanne


Paul Newman & Joanne Woodward were married on January 29, 1958, in a civil ceremony in Las Vegas.  Paul presented Joanne with a gift – a silver cup inscribed with the following:

“So you wound up with Apollo
If he’s sometimes hard to swallow
Use this.”

There are a few reasons Paul Newman and Joanne Woodward are among my favorites.
First of all, (let’s be frank here) they’re both really good looking.  And they united to create this really beautiful couple, whose love was so apparent – so that years later, I could sit at my desk drinking tea with a sleeping puppy on my lap, sifting through countless old photos of them being beautiful and happy and in love.

“Joanne is one of the last great broads.”
– Paul Newman

“Sexiness wears thin after a while and beauty fades, but to be married to a man who makes you laugh every day, ah, now that’s a real treat.”
– Joanne Woodward

“I don’t like to discuss my marriage, but I will tell you something which may sound corny but which happens to be true.  I have steak at home.  Why would I go out for a hamburger?”

– Paul Newman during an interview for Playboy when asked about temptation

“People stay married because they want to, not because the doors are locked.”

– Paul Newman

 

Please Advise: My Parents Have Taken Over Our Wedding

“My parents are helping us pay for our wedding. The problem is that their vision of our day and our vision are not the same: they’re picturing something big and grandiose; something their friends will be talking about for years to come. My fiancé and I want something intimate and more meaningful to us. How do we plan the type of wedding we want without looking ungrateful?”

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I sympathize with you – I was in that exact same position. My fiancé and I wanted a small intimate ceremony in a park with a huge pizza party reception. It took a lot of arguing and being called ungrateful before my last ditch effort to have a wedding: I wrote them a letter.

In the letter I explained what we wanted, why we wanted it and stressed how important it was to have our parents support us through one of the greatest times of our lives. I was honest with my parents in the letter and writing it down made it more difficult to get lost in an argument. My parents were able to read it over and over again, and it got through their heads. It wasn’t all happily ever after with them afterwards, but it was much better.

Also, if you have a sibling that does want a grandiose wedding, mention that to them. My sister Tara wants a huge wedding, so I’d always reassure my mom that she’ll have the wedding of her dreams whenever Tara gets married.

Fourth of July Nail Art

So I realize the Fourth is over with for this year and all, but that doesn’t mean we can’t still swoon at pretty, patriotic manicures, right?

Nail art is kind of huge right now and lots of people are going all out with a theme (check out the pictures below if you’re not sure what I’m babbling about). While I’m not exactly sure I want to jump onto the themed nail art bandwagon, I do think you can get endless inspiration from it.

 


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Beautylish

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Also, If you’re on the prowl for awesome beauty tutorials of any kind, you absolutely have to check out The Beauty Department. It is absolute awesome sauce. They break things down into simple steps and show you photos of each one. Here’s a small look at what I mean:

The Beauty Department
Whether these pretty designs lead you to experiment with stripes, polka dots, stars or glittery fingers, tell us about it! You can send us pictures of your pretty nail art (or anything else for that matter!) at bijoubridemag@gmail.com.

Essential Tips for Choosing Your Bridesmaid’s Dress Color

When selecting your bridesmaids’ dresses the cut, style, and shape of the dress shouldn’t be the only important factors when showcasing the most important women in your life. Color can play a major part in making your girls look their best.

The color scheme in your wedding is important but don’t sacrifice your sister’s or best friend’s comfort by putting her in a color that makes her look washed out, sick, or bigger than she is. It’s pretty impossible to find a whole bridal party with similar skin tones, so my advice is to pick a universally flattering color that looks good on your cousin who wears SPF 85 on a daily basis AND your sorority sister who can’t live without her self tanner.

The most universally suitable colors to choose for bridesmaid’s dresses are navy and purple – close runners up are crimson and fuchsia. In general, brighter and/or darker colors are the best way to go, consider jewel tones or metallic. Plus, the color contrast really makes your white gown POP!

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The only greens that should ever be considered are kelly and emerald. Most greens can make ladies with olive skin tones look nauseous – especially celedon or celery! For a fresh and earthy vibe try burnt orange, melon, or coral instead.

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I would stay away from pale pink or lavender if any of your girls have a ruddy complexion or rosacea. A hot color right now is blush. I love it for flowers but once the reception starts, your bridal party will probably get flushed from dancing and drinking and can end up turning the same color as the dress.

Pastels tend to make people look washed out and they aren’t the most slimming shades. Let’s take butter yellow as an example. Usually the only girls that can get away with wearing this color have naturally golden tans and are smaller than a size 8.

Need something blue?  How about your whole bridal party? Blue is great because the whole range from baby to midnight is flattering on any and all complexions. Teal is also a beautiful color on everyone and is unexpected.

JAC Photography via Green Wedding Shoes

When in doubt go neutral!  My favorite choice is gunmetal or platinum. It’s understated yet serves as a great backdrop for bright or pale bouquets. Of course you can always pick basic black or chocolate brown.

Maybe if you choose a universally flattering color, when your bridesmaids tell you that they will DEFINITELY wear the dress again, you may actually believe them!

Say it with me: RED is a GO – GREEN is a NO – Don’t Even Consider YELLOW!

Makeup Trial to Wedding Day: Will the Makeup Translate the Way I Expect It To?

Here are a few good examples of how the makeup looked at the trial and through a photographers lens on the big day. Notice how the makeup looks more faded in the natural light and with the correct camera settings. If you are concerned that the makeup looks a bit too bright or dramatic at the trial, rest assured the same makeup will look picture perfect on your wedding day.

 
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Vanessa Joy Photography

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Friday, November 9, 2012

November Color Obsession: Chocolate

by Meredith Hayman

Let’s face it, nothing is better than chocolate. Not only is it delicious, the color is creamy, rich, and flattering all at the same time. Why not incorporate this neutral into your wedding décor – pair it with white for a dramatic look or with peach or gold for a romantic vibe.

 
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Chocolate cosmos is a beautiful and modern choice for a bouquet.

 
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This groom looks polished in chocolate but not too formal.

 

 
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I love this table setting, it’s rustic yet fancy!

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Wednesday, November 7, 2012

Please Advise: Bachelor Party Woes

by Courtney Kamna

“My fiancé has been friends with his groomsmen since he was eight years old. I love them dearly and we get along really well, but I’ve heard rumors about the bachelor party they’re planning to throw—rumors that include both strippers and illegal drugs. How do I let everyone involved know that I think it’s disrespectful and unacceptable without causing a big rift?”

 
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I can totally understand where you are coming from and being concerned, especially about the drugs.

Unfortunately, if you don’t want to start a rift, there is nothing you can do except trust that your fiancé will behave himself and come home in one piece. I assume since you are marrying him, you have established a trusting relationship. How would you feel if you were going out with your friends, doing something your fiancé perceived as “unacceptable” and he made it known to everyone that he felt this way?

I’d speak to your fiancé about it privately if you absolutely feel you need to, but be very careful of the language you use. I would not tell him it’s unacceptable, that word will just evoke a fight. Be honest with him and explain how you feel, but be specific. Why are you so upset about the strippers or the drugs – tell him why and how it makes you feel. But be prepared for him being upset that you don’t “trust” him or are “babying” him. I would absolutely not approach his friends about it because you run the risk of being “that” girl. He’s already ditching his boys to marry you (men really feel this way) and if you’re going to start “bossing” him and his friends around before you’re officially married, it will cause a lot of resentment.

My husband had strippers at his bachelor party too. At first, I was a bit taken aback, but remember it’s his last big night out as a single guy. And don’t forget, those women up there with no clothes on, they do not want some drunk touching them any bit more than you do!

As for the drugs, especially if it’s any major drug, my grandfather used to say “What a drunk man does, he’s thinking about when he’s sober.”  Bottom line: you can’t let them know it’s disrespectful without causing a big rift.  No huge rift.  My advice is to give him something that he wants to come home to – this can be romantic, sexual or ideally, both. Men are visual creatures – so however you handle this situation will be how he remembers you on the bachelor party. Remember that before you “talk” or scold him.

Since you’ll be marrying this guy, you guys should have a way to communicate sticky issues like this. Whenever my husband does something I’m not especially fond of, I always say, “I don’t have life insurance out on you yet, so make sure you come home in one piece.” We smile at each other, both knowing exactly what I mean.

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Tuesday, November 6, 2012

Love Letter: Marc to Meredith

by Meredith Hayman

In the hustle and bustle of everyday life, it’s hard to take a minute to appreciate what a wonderful husband I have. Since today is our 8th wedding anniversary, I wanted to let my amazing hubby, Marc, in on a little secret.

I carry a love letter from you in my wallet. The letter is circa summer ’05 and has been in my wallet since the day I received it. I am so grateful to have found the love of my life. Happy Anniversary babe!

My Dearest Boo-Boo,

Every moment of every day, I realize just how much that I love you. Everywhere I turn there is a reminder of just how wonderful you are, from notes that you have left me to things that I see those trigger memories we have shared. Every time, I am reminded of the fact that I am the luckiest man in the whole world. You are everything that I have ever wanted and I cherish every moment that we spend together. You are my world, my partner, my soul. I am so fortunate to have found such happiness with you and want you to know that I do not take anything for granted. I love you the most; you are the best thing that ever happened to me. I am looking forward to spending the summer with you, including long walks in the nice weather, and lots of cuddle time around the apartment. Each of those moments is what I look forward to every minute of every day. It is what wakes me up in the morning¸ keeps me going through the day, and makes me want to get home to you every night.

You are the most special lady in the whole wide world and I hope that I make you feel that way each and every day. I promise to continue to love, honor, and cherish you every moment of every day.

Thank you for loving me and making me feel so complete. I love you the most.

Love,
Pumpkin

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Friday, November 2, 2012

Great Loves: Kermit the Frog and Miss Piggy

by Meredith Hayman

Who can ever forget the scene from The Muppet Movie when Kermit and Piggy are running through the meadow into each other’s arms? It was love-at-first-site for this unlikely pair.  Then there were years of break-ups and make-ups that left their fans always rooting for reconciliation.

Piggy can be a tough cookie but Kermit always brings out her softer side. It may not be easy being green but it sure is easy to love this Classic Hollywood couple.

 
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Real Wedding: Jordan & Kyle

Venue: Dyker Beach Golf Course 
DJ: DJ Entertainment by Teddy (he is wild!)
Flowers: 1-800 Flowers especially my mom Laraine (who is their pphoto stylist and Cynthia
Photographer: Photo by Basia
Hair: Donna McCord of the Hair Den (I’m a hairstylist as well there)
Invitations: Kelly Trench Designs (She is amazing. She brought my vision to life!!!!)
Makeup: Gina Haggerty
Dress: called Marysa found at Kleinfeld
Shoes: Touch Ups
Jewelry: my grandmother’s
Headpiece: made by my mother (netting and all) using my grandmother’s broaches and other material

A little background info:
Kyle is an ex-pro hockey player I met while he played in New York. I am an extremely family oriented hair stylist from Rockaway Beach, New York. We survived 8 months of long distance and not seeing one another by phone calls, cards, and email.


We picked September 15th because it was my grandparents’ wedding anniversary. They survived over 55 years together before sadly passing. I met Kyle two months on the day of my grandmother’s death.

He’s from Boston, I’m from New York yet our families are beyond close.

If I have any advice for brides it doesn’t rush. Don’t rush a date as soon as you get the ring. Prepare and enjoy being engaged and also split the tasks with your soon-to-be husband.

Don’t make the wedding a show, make it about the two of you. Who cares what everyone else thinks?!

And choose your groomsmen and bridesmaids wisely. They will be your support team!

There is a saying I love: “Have a marriage as beautiful as your wedding” that to me, is EVERYTHING.

5 things I love about my husband

  • He honors me always. When I don’t stick up for myself, he does.
  • He empowers me to try new things. From sports to foods to zip lining in the rainforest in Antigua
  • He gives me confidence. From telling me how beautiful I am to how great of a mom I’ll be one day.
  • He’s made me want more than just my career. I never was the girl to want a family or husband. I wanted to be a rocking stylish. Now I want to be Suzie Homemaker!
  •  He teaches me things and answers all of my questions, even the stupid ones. From what’s a line backer to interrupting movies because the plot is too confusing for me.
  • He puts up with my singing. And I sing everything!
  • He makes me feel safe. No matter where we go or what we are doing if his hand is in mine, I’m ok.
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I asked my husband via email to get cracking on his list and this is what I got. Am I lucky or what?!

What I love about Jordan McCullough… 

  • I love that you make me a better man
  • I love your positive attitude at all times
  • I love your goofiness
  • I love your smile
  • I love your sense of humor
  • I love how you’re a dork
  • I love that you complement me perfectly so we are perfect team
  • I love that you show me so much affection
  • I love that you love me
  • I love your butt
  • I love that you want to be the perfect housewife
  • I love that you try to do things that I like even though you may not
  • I love that you are so family oriented
  • I love your energy and giddiness
  • I love how you tell it like it is
  • I love that you put me in my place
  • I love how you make us a family
  • I love that you always wanna be around me
  • I love that you are my soul mate
  • I love your independence
  • I love that you make me smile
  • I love you in your undies
  • I love the way you kiss me
  • I love your big feet
  • I love the noises you make when you’re sleeping

Top Fifteen Wedding Movies

1. My Big Fat Greek Wedding.
Nia Vardalos and John Corbett
My sisters and I do fantastic impressions of this entire movie.

Quote that makes me laugh: “You see? A man!”


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2. The Five-Year Engagement

Jason Segel and Emily Blunt
I finally watched this the other day and found myself laughing out loud throughout the entire thing.  It’s the perfect mix of romantic and ridiculous.
Quote that makes me laugh: “This is supposed to be exciting. This is your wedding — you only get a few of these.”  

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3. My Best Friend’s Wedding

Julia Roberts, Dermot Mulroney, Cameron Diaz
I first saw this movie in the theaters when I was in middle school.  My cousin and I had to pick a movie and couldn’t agree between this one and Wild America.  My grandma made us flip a coin.  I won 🙂
MY BEST FRIEND’S WEDDING, from left: Rupert Everett, Julia Roberts, 1997, © TriStar/courtesy Everett Collection


4. Made of Honor
Patrick Dempsey, Michelle Monaghan, Kevin McKidd
Patrick Dempsey’s in it and it’s filmed in NYC and Scotland… what’s not to love?
Part that makes me laugh: The baby-naming scene.


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5. Father of the Bride
Steve Martin, Diane Keaton, Martin Short


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6. The Wedding Singer
Adam Sandler & Drew Barrymore (and a cameo by Billy Idol)
We watched this in my house nearly every night for a solid six months.  The eject button on our VCR upstairs was broken so we used to have to take the tape out with butter knives so that we could return it to Joe’s Video (this entire paragraph makes me feel old).


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7. Wedding Crashers
Owen Wilson, Vince Vaughn, Rachel McAdams, Isla Fisher, Bradley Cooper, Will Ferrel
Part that makes me laugh: what part of this movie doesn’t make me laugh?


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8. I Love You, Man
Paul Rudd, Jason Segel, Rashida Jones
Part that makes me laugh: I’m in tears pretty much every time the “Joben” conversation happens.  It never gets old.


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8.  Bridesmaids
Kristen Wiig, Maya Rudolph, Rose Byrne, Melissa McCarthy, Chris O’Dowd
Quote that makes me laugh: The entire drive-by scene.  It kills me.

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9. 27 Dresses
Katherine Heigl, James Marsden, Malin Akerman
Part that makes me laugh: the argument over Benny and the Jets.

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10. the Proposal
Sandra Bullock, Ryan Reynolds, Betty White
Part that makes me laugh: Sandra Bullock and Betty White chanting in the woods.


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11. Bride Wars
Anne Hathaway, Kate Hudson


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12. That Old Feeling
Bette Midler, Dennis Farina, Paula Marshall
Quote that makes me laugh:
I developed a serious crush on Danny Nucci after watching this movie.  Serious.


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13. Runaway Bride
Julia Roberts, Richard Gere


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14. the Wedding Planner
Jennifer Lopez, Matthew McConaughey


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15. the Wedding Date
Debra Messing, Dermot Mulroney, Amy Adams


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What are your favorite parts of these?  Any wedding movies you love that weren’t mentioned?